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Being Men

By Dan Greenberg '86

Early in his training, every Postulant learns Alpha Chi Rho’s motto: ΑΝ ΔΡΙΖΕΣΘΕ – “be men”. But what exactly do they learn? What did WE learn? A recent experience reminded me that Crows very much learn being a gentleman and a good man, is deep graven on each heart.

In November, Phi Phi leveraged Homecoming Weekend at Penn to host a number of festivities in commemoration of the centennial of our chapter house.  Late on Saturday, I was chatting with a recent grad in the basement when we were approached by a young lady – a friend of the guy I was speaking with.  She was wearing a “clubwear” dress – a dress that was intended to get noticed. I certainly noticed, and I thought, “That’s a pretty daring choice. What a confident young woman!”

"This woman felt secure in the House. She felt safe among the Brothers, that nothing untoward would happen to her regardless of her outfit."

But on reflection, I thought of something else: this woman felt secure in the House. She felt safe among the Brothers, that nothing untoward would happen to her regardless of her outfit.

That’s what “being men” is about. There was no doubt in her mind that Crows would respect her and… in talking to Brothers from multiple decades… there was no doubt in any Brother’s mind that she would be respected. In fact, there was vigorous defense by the Brothers I spoke with that it would be so.

Unfortunately, this is an age where bad behavior by fraternities reach the national news. So, I decided to investigate a little: was this incident unique, or does Phi Phi have a general reputation as a safe place for female guests, as a group of gentlemen?  I am proud to say that my discussions with a current Penn woman, and a recent female grad, confirmed Phi Phi’s reputation on campus as, in contrast to some other houses, a place they were comfortable going.

Proof that Phi Phi Brothers throughout the decades are living our motto by being gentlemen, by Being Men!